A Simple Reminder

Self Care 3 Minutes

So, this post has been really hard for me to get out of my head and into existence. I don’t think there’s a particular reason, it’s just taken me some time to figure out exactly what I was trying to say and how to say it. I had a couple of pretty lame ideas over the last several days –you almost got an up close and personal look at my fabrication fixture at work– but I finally figured it out. It came to me as I was taking my dogs out to go to the bathroom. I was walking them around, enjoying the coolness of the evening and rocking out to some fun music, when I was struck by a sudden feeling of calm. A lot of thoughts flashed through my mind at that moment, but one in particular stuck with me as something worth sharing. It was this:

It’s Gonna Be Ok

Yep. That’s it. That’s the idea that resonated with me so much this evening that I was able to burst through my writer’s block and get to work. Now let’s talk about why.

You see, this week has been pretty weird for me. Last weekend my sister came into town to grab stuff from my apartment for her abrupt –yet planned– move to New York City, I’ve had to figure out how to work around massive engineering issues at work (you have no idea how close you came to getting a post about that), and I’ve been fighting a weird fatigue that I just haven’t been able to shake. It’s been weird. Not bad, just weird, but as a result I’ve been struggling a lot with not knowing what to write about.

And by “struggling” I mean stressing myself way out.

Seriously. I’ve been totally fixated on the fact that I haven’t been able to write anything since last Saturday morning when I woke up and wrote “Be The Nicest Human.” It’s really been messing me up.

And as the week wore on and the writer’s block persisted, I started to question the point of the blog itself, my ability as a writer, the idea that I have anything of worth to say, and a billion other things. I’m not proud to admit it, but more than once this week I wondered whether I should just quit because, obviously, I’m not good enough to be doing this at all (thanks depression). But tonight, on a cool evening potty break with the dogs and with Goldfinger’s “Superman” blaring in my headphones, I realized that everything would be ok. And that felt really good. Suddenly I was able to recognize that my stress wasn’t permanent and that, in the long run, I have a 100% success rate in overcoming (or at least surviving) any obstacles that arise for me. I have no idea where it came from, but that simple realization made me feel way, way better.

So I want to share that feeling with you; because I think it’s an incredibly important –if really simple– point and because I know I’m not the only one who sometimes gets overwhelmed. Think about it, when was the last time you got super stressed or overwhelmed about work, or family, or the pandemic, or any of the other innumerable things that we as humans worry about. If you’re anything like me it probably wasn’t that long ago. Maybe you’re even there right now. I just want to take this opportunity to remind you that it’s all good. You’re going to be ok.

So, yeah. That’s it for this time. I know its simple, but I think it’s crucially important that we remind ourselves every once-in-a-while that everything’s going to be ok. Because, honestly, it is.

Thanks for reading, you’ve got this,

-Ian

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28 thoughts on “A Simple Reminder”

  1. Simple but a powerful piece of writing, Ian.

    I think most bloggers go through stages of giving up blogging, usually for the wrong reasons, but just imagine the blogging world without this post as a part of it. Just imagine the people who this post will help, not ever reading this post.

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  2. Some great advice that I got from another blogger…when you’re feeling blocked and you’re questioning whether you’re doing the right thing, remember your “why.” Why did you start blogging? What made you want to put your thoughts out into the world? It was great advice. It always pulls me back to where I need to be.

    You’re a great writer and I enjoy reading your blogs. Keep going…you’ve got this!

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  3. Simple but perfect! Sometimes you need to hear or read those words from someone else to really believe them. This was a nice reminder that I’ve gotten through bad times before and that I’ll get through them again! Another really great post from you.

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  4. Just keep writing…
    There will be no “one way to do this” and YOUR method will develop…or not. Either way – just keep writing.

    I personally don’t think there needs to be a why, as much as a why not?

    Everyone has something to say and as long as one other person is listening – then it was meant to be heard. What the receiver learns is not our lesson, only that we offered it up and sent it one its way. Please, just keep writing…

    Sending you lots of hugs & blessings every time you do!💕

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  5. This post is a wonderful reminder! I’ve often found myself in highly stressful mental states, of course curated by my actions. And I’ve always made my way out of it. Our thoughts can sometimes twist into the scariest “what if” scenarios, but I’m learning to focus less on the “what if’s” and more of the what can I do now.

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  6. Thank you! Sometimes it’s hard to remember that in the middle of a stressful or difficult situation. I remember feeling similar when my grandparents were both struggling with Alzheimer’s, and it was so hard. Especially because they wouldn’t have wanted to cause that kind of grief in any of their loved ones. But now, looking back, I’m so grateful for every moment I had with them, even the sad ones. None of it was easy, but I feel like being there for them made me a better person.

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  7. Great post and even better message! I think we all need to be reminded now and then, that everything will be ok.
    I’m glad you didn’t quit. You’re posts are so inspirational and honest, I would miss reading them. Especially since so often they are exactly what I need to hear, at exactly that moment. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Exactly! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in stress and worry and to forget that almost everything is pretty much benign, even when we totally fail. Thanks for reading 😊

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  10. This is a great reminder. The last year has been one of lots of tumult and change, and I have to remember to be grateful for doing my best to just survive everyday. I’m hopeful for what’s to come!

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  11. Brilliant message and something that I myself could do with reminding myself a lot more often! I think we spend so much time worrying about things that haven’t happened, when we should just tell ourselves that “it will be ok” and just let it go, and let life do what it wants to do.
    Plus your posts are great so never quit! ☺️

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  12. This was a great post! I am sure that even if now is full of uncertainties, we will soldier on and be okay! Always remind yourself that this is a new situation for everyone, you are not alone 🙂

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  13. This is such a lovely post. Everyone has ups and downs and sometimes, the hardest things to do during challenges is to somehow convince ourselves that somehow, everything is going to be okay. Everything’s gonna be okay and everything is gonna get better! Stay strong xx

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  14. Doubt is pernicious, and seems to affect everyone, no matter how successful or confident they appear. Everyone is stuck with a voice convincing them that they will never attain anything, no matter what they might have already achieved. All we can do is reassure ourselves that it is okay, and will always be okay. As long as the blog is a source of enjoyment or satisfaction, it’s worth doing!

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